Kathy Patalsky - Notes
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Kathy Patalsky - Notes
school pickup line
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The school pickup line might look like a line of cars, but for many parents it’s a strange little pause in the day. In this episode of Notes, I reflect on the ritual of waiting for your child at the end of the school day.
From quiet moments alone in the car to the sudden burst of backpacks, snacks, and after-school stories, pickup becomes a transition between the adult world and family life.
This episode explores parenting routines, motherhood reflection, and the everyday moments that quietly shape childhood memories.
Topics include school pickup, parenting rituals, motherhood life, and family routines.
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"Early enough that I can just sit there, sunglasses on, sparkling water in my cup holder, cars slowly stacking behind me, and there's this strange little community of parents all sitting in their own comfy cars."
You are listening to Notes with Kathy Patalsky. Today's episode pickup.
If you participate in the school pickup line, you know that it's not just a line of cars, it's a whole little moment in time. A bridge between the day you had in the afternoon you are about to have together.
It reminds me of the Hollywood Bowl in the summertime.
Stay with me here. If you've ever been to the Hollywood Bowl, you know that you don't just walk straight into the concert. Unless you got in like parking lot a and you can just hop on the hill and walk straight up. But usually you're parking on the other side of the road, and so you're gonna have to cross the street.
And to cross the street. You don't just cross the street. You have to go through the tunnel. You have to walk through this tunnel under the road. It's brightly lit with fake lighting, the ceiling is very low. If my daughter is on my back, she can stick her little hand up and touch the ceiling.
Everything echoes. You hear people talking and music is starting somewhere in the distance. Sometimes there are street performers or people selling souvenirs. You walk through that tunnel, you come out on the other side and suddenly the hills open up and the music is right out there in front of you.
That walk through the tunnel always feels like a transition moment. Like you're leaving one world of the parking lot and entering another world, the world up the hill to the bowl.
And school pickup feels like that to me.
Because before my daughter ever gets in the car, there's this whole quiet time ritual that feels a little bit like a calming tunnel. Just my own. If you're a mom like me, you always try and get there early, not too early.
Like I'm not trying to look like the mom who showed up 40 minutes early and is the first in line. Nobody wants to be first in line. Let's be real. Maybe third if you're in a hurry, but not first. Early enough that I can just sit there, sunglasses on, sparkling water in my cup holder, cars in front of me, cars slowly stacking behind me, and there's this little community of parents all sitting in their own comfy cars. It's almost like a row of hotel rooms. A very glamorous hotel where the spa treatment is sitting in your car doing absolutely nothing, having sound insulation to the outside world.
Some moms are texting, some moms are closing their eyes for a minute. Some are sipping a coffee or sparkling water, like it's a tiny vacation. You might have K-pop demon hunters playing for your kid who's about to get in the car, or maybe you're listening to a podcast on the tail end before you have to switch the music.
Or maybe you're queuing up certain music. I'm in this weird ritual of turning on the soundtrack to the movie flow. You know the one with the black cat that's like in a flood world? I always have it playing when she gets in the car.
And as you're relaxing in your tiny hotel room, waiting for someone to wave you forward. You can wave to another mom. Or you can just smile at the pickup staff with their walkie talkies. Organizing the whole operation, like airport traffic control.
And for a few minutes there are no toys to pick up. No dishes, no one's asking for snacks. No one's climbing on you. You just sit there waiting in your own little seat. Then the walkie-talkie cackles cars start inching forward. You inch closer. And there she is waiting for you. Standing on the edge. My kid has a giant metallic blue backpack slouched over her shoulders, like it weighs more than she does.
It has these fuzzy little pink clouds all over it, five key chains dangling from the side.
She's just swinging her backpack back and forth, side to side completely in her own little world. If there's a friend waiting with her, she'll hug them. Or they'll jump together giggling that they're both getting picked up at the exact same time. And then the car door opens and she hops in.
At the beginning of the year, she staged dove into the car like a rockstar. She would fling her entire body onto the floor of the backseat the way a lead singer dived into a mob. To crowd surf? Is that what they're called? A mob?
Oh, the mosh pit. The way. A mosh pit. You guys absolutely mosh pit energy over here. The teachers used to giggle every time she did it and they'd coily ask, does she need help getting buckled in? But she'd pop up somehow already half buckled in and yell something ridiculous to me, like, hello, baby butt.
They just closed the door. And when she says those unique little greetings to me, hello, baby butt. Hello, booty butt. I'm probably supposed to correct her as a responsible parent should, but instead I just laugh. Because this is the language we speak to each other. I toss her a bag of snacks and she immediately dumps the entire thing out onto her seat next to her. Crackers. Fruit, fruit snacks, chocolate, soy milk. One of those little smoothie packs I always have in there. Snack, explosion, and we pull away, the sun comes through the windshield and I can hear her munching in the backseat.
Sometimes she peels off her shoes and I can smell her feet in the air. And suddenly we're on the other side of the tunnel.
Because that little moment in the pickup line, sitting in the car, waiting, watching for her, that's the bridge between my day and the part of the day that we get to share together. Every afternoon we pass through that tunnel, the pickup line, and on the other side of it, the rest of the day or night begins.
And the funny part is you guys. I don't ever remember us not being in a good mood in that tunnel. We're always excited, always giggly, always happy to see each other, and there's something about that that's just so comforting. Because that's exactly the life that I'm trying to build for her.
One that's filled with these little predictable rituals, both for her and for me. Rituals we come to look forward to and feel safe and seen inside of. So if you're headed for pickup right now and you're a mom, I see you. And I hope that you're getting there early enough to sit in the quiet for a few minutes, 📍 but not too early so that you're like the first line.
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